Is INFPs Hard to Read?

I believe that first and foremost, there is little likelihood of truly understanding the INFP personality type.

  • INFPs are hard to identify unless you are on their wavelength, so some people aren't even aware that INFPs exist. You can also read more in our popular post about guessing someone's MBTI.
  • Given how INFPs don't engage proactively, most would not have taken the time to engage and understand them.

An INFP can be your greatest option if you're seeking a sympathetic friend to assist you through it all. An INFP buddy is dependable, grateful, sincere, and encouraging.

They will support you through your toughest times and cheer you on in your victories. Lifetime friendships are important to INFPs.

But they are picky about who they let into their circle. Despite their compassion and fierce loyalty to their friends, INFPs might be challenging to communicate with.

People with limited knowledge of INFPs frequently use the following description to sum them up:

The INFP demeanor first comes out as withdrawn, timid, and shy.

And the most common description? That INFPs are hard to read. Is that really so? We dig deep into the soul of an INFP in this article!

Why are INFPs hard to read?

INFPs typically don't strike up interactions with new people. To dispel myths, many INFPs aren't reserved. They won't speak with you, though, unless you initiate it.

No, they're not averse to interacting with people, but they're reluctant to appear engaged.

In addition to being secretive, INFPs are also cautious individuals. They tend to analyze people's actions unconsciously rather than being more open.

They observe your body language and pay attention to how coherent your stories are. They then make a judgment about whether they like you or not.

Additionally, INFPs don't find a sense of belonging in groups. They have no interest in establishing acquaintances during gatherings. INFPs find it horrifying to become involved with a group that doesn't speak to them. Rather than being forced into the wrong group, they prefer to remain by themselves.

Even in friendships and partnerships, INFPs cherish authenticity. They find that friendships that develop naturally are the best. Only those who they have observed over time and who share their values can be trusted by INFP.

Communicating with an INFP

Real communication with an INFP is only on a cerebral level. The INFP will openly share their imaginative works with you if you can convince them of your value.

  • INFPs have whimsical and quirky personality that shows a sometimes chaotic but always inventive intellect.
  • Their ability to vividly depict new worlds and locations contrasts sharply with their inability to interact with and convey themselves to an unfamiliar person.
  • However, they struggle to put their daily plans into a logical phrase.

And while the INFP is typically unsuccessful and submissive in fast-paced, productive workplaces, the INFP is a very talented and compassionate person in a more intimate setting who will obstinately take their position on issues near to their hearts.

Yes, the INFP does appear to be nearly impossible to manage. Whatever logical arguments you have to persuade them to give up their resistance won't matter. Pessimistic messages won't get through to them. Arguments based on the greater good are inadmissible when speaking with an INFP.

Getting to know an INFP

How then, do you get to know an INFP? How can you pique an INFP's interest and attention? I'd say start by letting them know you're paying attention to them.

Making an INFP feel heard and noticed is already something very unique and priceless. I believe that many INFPs have feelings of invisibility and isolation. Therefore, if you can show up where they are, that would be a great first step. We also cover the differences between perceivers and judgers

The second and most important step is to be ready to join them in their uprising. I'm referring to the fact that you demonstrate a willingness to consider and hear their distinct viewpoint, as well as your ability to convey that you take it seriously. 

Understand that the INFP is deeply committed to what he or she wants and that if you disregard or oppose his or her emotional needs, you will not be able to forge an authentic connection with him or her.

  • You shouldn't just give up, even though you may not agree with their opinions, but you should be willing to keep working things out together.
  • When you don’t agree with INFPs, don’t hesitate to tell them that you are willing to be proved wrong and admit that you might be mistaken.

Is INFP Hard To Work With

So the final question remains: How do you get along with an INFP? The road ahead is a little bit steep.

The fact remains that you don't pick INFPs, though. Instead, they pick you.

Despite how self-centered it may sound, this is real. With an INFP, friendships cannot be forced. They must be consistently shown trust before they will let down their guard. The same is true for INFPs, which is why they struggle to make friends. You can also read why personality tests are important.

Thankfully, once they trust you, they will go out of their way to assist you. They value trust and memories. If you make an INFP friend, they'll likely remain your friend for life.

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Author: Joanne
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